I pronounce you husband and wife..

Marriage is like buying a house or vice versa (unless you’re a serial house buyer or you go around buying houses for investment purposes).

First you need to find yourself a place that you love, then, you start investing your time and energy into ensuring that this is THE place you want to be.


Is it big enough? (heheheh!)

Will I be happy here? (does he/she make me laugh?)

How are the amenities around the location? (can the relationship survive based on what you already see?)

Will I get enough light/air from the windows? (will I be stifled when I’m with him/her?)


Once you’ve decided that this is THE ONE, you start the process of loan application (in some cases, you really do have to take out loans to upkeep the relationship). When things get REALLY serious you now have to go ahead and get the entire documentation ready like the sales & purchase agreement (pre-nup??/ marriage certificate).


And when that is all done, you are now a proud house owner, in other words hitched. Now comes the delicate and tricky part. The maintenance bit. You see, you can do renovation works but not too much, because you do not want to mess about with the original structure. After all, you already fell in love with the place, why subject it with a myriad of changes. As a wise man once told me, don’t change him too much, he may end up a stranger.


You can however, enhance the place, like putting in a fridge, cooker, cabinets, etc. Furnish the place to make the place more charming. Anyone will be happy when they change for the better, no? I know Homer is ecstatic with his new carefully selected wardrobe.


Upkeep of the household can be nasty, but if done consistently, keeping the place clean should not be difficult. If you take care of your place it will always be there to shelter you. On the extreme end, a poorly maintained house can turn on you or you can get fed up with the house … but let’s zip up the downside of this, as I want this to be a positive entry.


When all is said and done, you need to have that sense of belonging as you walk in your house … knowing that you’re home. Knowing that you can walk around naked and be comfortable in your own skin, without being judged. Knowing that you can still be YOU, but with someone else around.


To Mr. Vice President who is finally taking the plunge, wishing you and soon-to-be-Mrs.-V.P, all the best!


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